Rejection

 In my short time here on Earth I’ve been rejected countless times. There was a season when I could not imagine living without feeling rejected. Let’s call that season years 21-22. Some of the key people in my life had abandoned me years before and I felt like I didn’t have a single friend. It was all catching up with me at the same time. “I felt” being the primary thing to pay attention to here. 

There is something so unique about the feeling of rejection. When you feel any amount of rejection, you automatically pull away from people. The opposite of what you want deep down inside, which is to be connected and loved and included. 

During this rough season in life I learned a profound lesson. That feeling’s matter, but truth will always be the truth. No matter what we feel. Who or what has wronged us. We can firmly stand on the Truth our sure foundation.  

It took some time to realize this. But the moment I did and allowed truth to determine how I felt rather than my emotional whim. Peace flooded my life.  I had to reject my feelings of rejection. Choose the very opposite of what I felt. The Bible tells us to do this. But until you’ve actually learned to do it, it doesn’t make sense…well it didn’t to me. I felt rejected but I had to believe I was accepted. The truth is my savior died for me and all those I feel rejected by. I’m actually adopted into his family. I feel unloved…welp that simply is not true. “For He so loved us that He gave His only begotten son to die on the cross for our sins.” I feel like I’ll never be good enough…dead wrong. He loved us first.

I can choose to base my feelings off of what broken and sinful people do to me or I can choose truth which is based off of my Perfect Heavenly Father.

Now don’t get me wrong. I’ve been hurt, rejected, and treated wrongly. I allow myself to feel that but I don’t choose to live off of those feelings. I can feel hurt but choose wholeness. I can feel rejected but ultimately I know the truth is I am not. Truth is like a shield that protects us. If I didn’t know the truth, if I didn’t believe it then I would be wide open for attack. My heart would hurt more and the injuries of people’s words and actions might never heal. But with truth I KNOW that nothing can really break me. Hurt me. Or permanently damage me. 

Truth is what I choose. 

So next time you walk into a room forget yourself.  Forget all the feelings of who may not want you there.  Forget the words spoken against you. You don’t have to live by lies or false claims. Walk right into that room and say “hello” to whoever is closest and show someone else how it feels to be accepted. And you know what? I bet you’ll feel so good, so accepted, and so loved.